A few days ago, I was thinking about how is it that some people can come before God with a sense of entitlement and arrogance ... and other people can come before God with humility and appreciation? In my thought process, I began to think about my grandmother. When we were children and would do something obviously with the wrong intentions, she would say, "have you no shame?"
That was the cue to do some self reflection, and correct the behavior... Not just at that moment, but from that moment forward.
When we look at so many of the events that are taking place with those closest to us, and as far reaching as the national platforms - the question is still a valid one to ask. Police have no shame in killing both the incident and the guilty without due process of the legal system, males procreating but not fathering their children, people walking around all day -out in public- in pajamas or with their underwear on display, broadcasting intimate life details on social media..... And on and on and on.
There is a lack of connection to what is right and good. Our society has become accustomed to anything and everything. The standards are so relaxed now, that even the most basic requirements seem like too much to ask. Everyone believes that they are a good person, because behavior should not be the measure of one's character. It is as if good and evil are now void of meaning. That is how the decline of morality has seeped in to the norm of our culture. The inability to acknowledge anything, is in essence a way to affirm everything. It doesn't work that way.
Acknowledging one's own sinful nature is even more challenging under these terms. Because under these terms, there really is no sin, just misinterpretation. So it is much easier to redefine everything constantly and conveniently than to call things wrong or right according to biblical standards. It is much easier to point out the flaws in the character of others than it is to be introspective and to acknowledge one's own flaws. It is larger than claiming or owning an act or event of sin, but the humiliation of knowing the lack of one's own moral accountability. Example: A married Christian protesting gay marriage, but being unfaithful in one's own heterosexual marriage. {My grandmother would say, "two wrongs don't make a right.} It is a hurtful feeling to humiliate yourself to yourself. This is when you know that you are wrong, even if no one else knows or identifies it.
Have you no shame? = Are you not able to hold yourself accountable for what you know is right?
The kind of shame that leads a sinner to repentance is the ability to stand in awe of God's completeness of being (Wholeness/Holiness), and comparing one's inferior state of being (sinful nature). I use the word 'ability' because the sinful nature brings with it arrogance and a sense of self righteousness, which has to be shattered before one can realize the need to change. It is hard to be humiliated, especially internally. Shame is not about being humiliated by the awareness that others see your wrong, but it is the internal dialogue that happens within self. When the error of your ways become so overpowering that change is absolutely necessary, this is when one is ready to surrender to God. Conviction is being convinced that wrong was done. Repentance is the determination to change from a nature of wrong-being, intentionally going in the right direction - in mindset, intention and deed.
When a person has no shame: wanting the results of what is right, but lacking the desire to be or do right. It is wanting the reward without the effort. This leads to behaviors that lack integrity. The lack of integrity is also a lack of shame.
Sanctification is the intentional effort to live a life separated from sin, it is biblically based integrity. It does not imply perfection, but intention. The greater the intention, the more probable the success of the effort. It is an effort that becomes a lifestyle. The more it is practiced, it becomes the norm. Each day, each individual has to make a conscious effort to make sin the norm or to make sanctification the norm. Each day, the effort will become easier to maintain the course, and this is why it is important to remain intentional.
The nature of humanity is such that in most, if not all cases, the change of behavior will not come until one's desire to be right has become solidified. Forced change can take place due to social norms or even penal systems, but a change of heart has to happen from within, before the individual is really capable of true repentance. For example, a child can hit another child for no reason and an adult require a verbal apology to be given. The child can learn when it is appropriate to say the words, but never have any intention to stop hitting the other child. But once the child determines that he or she does not want to hit others for no reason, the behavior will shift, not only to avoid hitting others intentionally, but also making the effort to not hit other unintentionally. That is the formation of character.
So when we have expectations of God, but no desire to change - "Have we no shame?"
